Tuesday, September 26, 2006

lucknow caferati readmeet Sept 23 06 - pictures

Jyoti Dewan reading her heartfelt personal poem about growing up in lucknow ...

(why do the women all sit on the ahem! opposite side?)

Neeru Nanda, who later read from her short story collection "If", can be seen
in the foreground.

And now the other half...

Special thanks to the unflagging caferati readmeet host from Lucknow,
Mr. Chanderprakash, who can be seen listening attentively. He is flanked by Ila Kapoor, ex forest officer Mohd. Hassan, Eduard Fantome, and
Aazeen Kirmani all of whom read their writings.

dan hussain caught at a moment of rapt commentary.

Also in picture: Monika Pant, and Syed Anwar Abbas who read from his
illustrated book on
the forgotten buildings of the nawabi era.

Monday, March 21, 2005

Uniform civil code for India?
Telegraph-Calcutta Club Debate

The Telegraph-Calcutta Club National Debate
Calcutta Club, March 13, 2005, 18:00

We are sitting in an ocean of black heads, with the stage brightly lit in front, with the logo - The Telegraph Calcutta Club National Debate. Night hangs over us, a few stars visible through the Kolkata fog - a moon crescent like the communist scythe is hanging just above the stage. After waiting here for about an hour, the speakers have finally cone up on stage. On the left are the rightists - Narendra Modi, Seshadri Chari, Vasundhara Raje, and Arun Jaitley, and on the right, not quite the leftists, but at least the pink - Mani Shankar Aiyar, Syed Sahabuddin, Fadi Nariman, and Salman Khurshid. In the middle, at a small desk all for himself, is Dileep Padgaonkar, who is moderating. The President of the club welcomes everyone and apologizes for the fracas in front of the club where protesters are burning effigies and chanting - Narendra Modi go away, and a huge police contingent is on duty, and the from comments I am overhearing in the crowd, I gather that the commissioner himself is present.

The motion before the house is : To be truly secular, India needs an uniform social code. The saffronites are in favour, and the congress votaries are opposing. Each speaker gets 10 minutes of monologue each, followed by a brief rebuttal by the two team leaders, after which it will be put up to vote.

Arun Jaitley is the first to take the podium. He reminds us that in November 1948, in the constituent assembly, BR Ambedkar, A Munshi and others all said that they were working towards eventually achieving an uniform civil code. Were they to repeat these speeches today, there would be an outcry. Jaitley raises the Shah Banu case, which will no doubt be mentioned again, as an extreme example of religiosity being used to violate the fundamental rights of an woman citizen, who was thereby reduced to destitution. Whereas rituals relating to birth, marriage, inheritance, etc. are certainly in the realm of religion, there are areas where these infringe on guarantees provided in the constitution, such as polygamy, oral divorce, etc, and in these areas the law must step in to ensure a minimal set of rights for its citizen.

Now to the other side - Mani Shankar Aiyar. He starts by looking at the two panels, and points out that all four on the other side are self-proclaimed "believing" Hindu's, while their side have two muslims, a parsi, and himself, an atheist. (applause) He then asks why "the noblest Roman of them all," Arun Jaitley, in his six years as law minister, never could bring a bill for an uniform civil code (laughter). Why he could not in his six years, bring a bill to repeal the Shah Bano law? Why did his solicitor general not move the Supreme Court saying these laws are unconstitutional? Because secularists on his side prevented him, and he did not have the moral courage to stand up to his rants. All of us Indians are hyphenated citizens - we carry with us our linguistic, caste, and religious identities. Before the Hindu Civil Code of 1956, they were subject to the Civil Code of 1898. Why did the Hindu's wish for a separate law? Because they wished for a structure in keeping with their practices. The visionaries of the constitution did not specify a deadline for a secular civil code, because each community would need to take their own paths to this code, taking into account all the different jurisprudences that are prevalent in the country. Similarly, during Arun Jaitley's tenure as minister, a law for Christian practices have been introduced and passed nearly unanimously. The last group, the Muslims, will be happy to submit to a law, but it has to be one that they themselves will define. Until such time as they evolve their own consensus on this matter, we cannot impose on them the will of others, especially not a group of hindu fanatics. He ends by quoting Gandhi - 25 July 1947 - The Hindu religion prohibits cow slaughter for the Hindus, and not for the rest of the world. The prohibition comes from inside, and any attempt to impose it from outside is despicable.

Compared to the seriousness of Jaitley, but also perhaps because he is speaking later, Mani Shankar Aiyar definitely comes up tops. He makes the audience laugh, and he makes good points.

The next speaker is Seshadri Chari - he gets a laugh by opening with - "Dear Hindus, Muslims, others, and Mani Shankar Aiyars". Chari is the editor of "The Organizer," the RSS magazine (what a tired word it has become - this "mouthpiece") . He points out that the fact that the four people on this side are Hindus was by invitation, not something they had any control over. The rest of his speech is more polemical than substance - "Does the Congress have a leader who can lead, and not follow the crowd."

Fali Nariman has a wry sense of humour. He says that "I am not a Hindu, I am not a Muslim. I am merely a poor fish in a shoal of sharks." And he goes on, "And sadly, we are now an endangered species." He plays to the gallery when he says, If India was to be secular, the capital should have remained Calcutta. Jaitley mentioned the Constituent assembly, he says, but he did not tell you all of it. Ambedkar went on to say that the civil code, if enforced, will be enforced only by the will of its citizens. Women, whether Hindu or Muslim, are oppressed in India, not because one has a codified set of rights, and the other does not, but because women are being oppressed by men in all levels of the Indian polity. He relates the story of how the Parsi intestate laws of the 1890's became gender-neutral only in 1991, after intense debate and consensus within the community. The minorities are particularly sensitive to externals who wish to interfere in the way they govern themselves.

Vasundhara Raje highlights the fact that she is the only woman. Given her royal background, she is the only speaker to mention that she has been working at the "grass-roots" on the plight of women. In the law, the father is the guardian of the legitimate child, while the mother is that for the illegitimate child... but most of her polemic is addressed at the imbalance of laws affecting women, and she fails to direct her comments on the secular issue. Goa, she points out, has some good elements in the civil code (no triple talaq, no polygamy), but exceptions are reprehensible (bigamy permitted if first wife has no male issue, matrimonial property managed by daughter's husband). But one can start from these, look at the best practices in all the codes, and come up with an uniform code.

Syed Sahabuddin harps on the notion of "consensus". He points out the difference between the words "uniform" and "common", which he says, really mean plurality and singularity, and stresses this difference (while this sounds like more rhetoric, I wonder if it may actually be part of the semantics, especially in this context). There are measures for interpretation of the Muslim code, which is both Shruti (Quran) and Smriti (Hadith etc) which together constitutes the Shariyat. Times are changing and many islamic communities have adopted changed modes. Even in India, the muslim community is moving towards change, on their own. But the psychology of minorities is such that any attempt to impose change will only slow things down. If we want an uniform code, why is there a separate Hindu law of taxation (the Hindu Undivided Family code). If uniformity and common-ness is the same, then why have any diversity at all - why not have only one religion, one language, one kind of food?

Narendra Modi speaks in Hindi, but he is extremely eloquent. The secularists do not feel secure unless he is sitting next to a minority person. Does he not feel he can be secular on his own strength? By the same token, we could call the other side anti-woman! That India is secular, is not in question. It is a pluralist society, it has been secular, it is secular, and it will remain secular. But is it fair that in a family, there should be one rule for the mother, one for the father, and one for the children? When he asked this of children in a school in Aurangabad, they said in one voice - there should be only the same rule. What is clear even to children, is unfortunately unclear to my intellectual friends on the other side. If the Shariyat law is so dear to our friends, why not propose it also for criminal law, why only in civil code? No - because it is not convenient to them. This is the land where its citizens, not looking to a votebank, not looking to follow the crowd, produced leaders like Ram Mohun Roy who were able to fight the entrenched system of Sati, and then widow remarriage. When the Muslims go to the US, how come they can live under an uniform code, does it violate their muslim identity? [applause] We don't want a VHP/BJP code. Let there be a committee, formed by eminent people, not from the BJP or VHP or RSS, constitutional experts and other learned men. Let them choose the best practices from every community. Let us come up not with an uniform civil code, but a "modern" civil code, suitable for the 21st "saadi".

Salman Khurshid starts by refuting Narendra Modi - are we going to ask children for what we want - why is it then that we don't allow children less than 18 years old to vote? A rather poor repartee - when one could have said that in families there actually are different rules; e.g. only the mother can nurse the child, resulting in some special treatment to her at these times. As for women - the points raised by the woman on the other side were all for gender justice, and we invite her to join us on this side, and we will all fight for her causes here. We in fact tried something bigger, we wanted to give this country a woman prime minister, but those on the other side would not have her (this fawning reference is of little relevance to the debate, and perhaps does not belong here). But they didn't anticipate that she would not want this position of power, but would only want to serve. As for the United States, Muslims there follow the same code, but even in their code, Quakers can marry as many wives as they want, and this is permitted because it was a special group in the US and they needed a special law. If the group wants it, they can conjoing their wills and get the law changed. Thank god Mr. Modi that everyone is not like you - in fact, if everyone was like you, we would not need any uniform civil code, not just that - we would not need any kind of law at all.

In closing, Arun Jaitley brings the women's equality into the debate, by noting that the primary reason for having different laws relating to marriage and inheritance, while all other laws were common - were to perpetuate the male superiority. Mr. Salman Khurshid brings in the issue of homosexuality. Should we consider the fate of homosexuals first, when Indian women are suffering from injustice enshrined in the law?

Mani Shankar Iyer rehashes the argument that why not undo the Hindu Undivided Family code first? Gandhi didn't look to change any other group's laws - he only attempted to improve the Hindu practices. If the code of any group is to be altered, it must be done from within that group. The civil code must step very carefully between ritual and justice. Will Narendra Modi be cremated or interred after his death - should the law decide it for him? The difference between that side and this, is that they are 85% Indian, but on this side we are 100% Indians.

Dileep Padgaonkar's turn now to sum up. We are tired after all this peroration, and he is mercifully brief. He says that we need to rise above the tired rhetoric and see if this is really a question the nation should even be debating. I personally agree - I think there is a rightist bias even in choosing such a topic for the agenda... Had it been titled "Should all religions be made to submit to the same set of laws" may have quite a different response. In any event, there is to be a vote on the motion. By a show of hands, the motion carries. A significant majority in the audience think that India should have an uniform code. Although I had come in today thinking that it should, by the end of the evening I must say that I was one of the hands among the minority, which goes to show that I had not thought of some points on the other side, especially that in a pluralistic society minorities need their own path to their own consensus. But for now, the majority has spoken.

The crescent moon has set long ago, and people are already filing out under the open night sky.

On to dinner.

Amitabha Mukerjee March 14 2005 04:40AM.
Lightly edited from on-site notes.

Tuesday, September 07, 2004

Waiting in the Rain

A menacing darkness brews in the air
Outside - dark clouds, grey, austere,
Pushing, shoving, jostling for space
Glaring inside the window, glaring at me
Glaring inside my skin, into my face
Glaring at me, waiting by the phone
Waiting for your ring which never comes.
The clouds roil closer, hovering tight
Crushing, crumpling, the evening light.

Night deepens -- the clouds gnash silently.
The branches of the sharifa hold them off,
Leaves unmoving, taut with fear.


With a jagged startle horizons spark out
The phone lights up, the window rattles
Deep thundersounds flutter
Into still soundlessness. A spent lethargy
Tumbles down, dragging behind it
A vague unease, something unfinished.
Tense, asleep.
A menacing darkness brews in the air. . .

This website is not an active blog. More
on caferati...

Saturday, September 04, 2004

healthy orgasms

Now that we have got you to open this page, I am afraid it is very much a page in the making.

But while we are here, and we are talking health, here is something sure to leave you healthier than before you drank it:


1/2 oz White Creme de Cacao
1/2 oz Amaretto Almond Liqueur
1/2 oz Triple Sec
1/2 oz Vodka
1 oz Light Cream

Shake all ingredients with ice, strain into a chilled cocktail glass, and serve.

Serve in: Cocktail Glass

At under 20% Alcohol, this is a fairly light drink.

You can replace the Amaretto Cream with any other cream liquor.

If you want something more dramatic, replace the white cream de cacao with milk cream and the triplesec with Kahlua, and then layer it on ice in a thin tall glass - Kahlua, cream liquor, and white cream on top, slightly frothy -- and you can have a BLOWJOB instead of an orgasmus.